We are overwhelmed with everyone’s kindness and well wishes and cannot express our appreciation to all of you as we grieve the loss of our baby boy. Today we made the decision to share with others his name – Elija (Eli) Domingo. We have and continue to cry so many tears but know that your kind words are comforting to us. We realized since sharing our loss how much Eli meant to so many people – we cried with our doctor today but left with a feeling of hope for Eli’s two brothers. One of us will attempt to share updates as they become available.
I know that many knitters have either made or are making items for all three babies. You are welcome to make a personal decision as to how you want to celebrate Eli and share these gifts – charities in memory of Eli or otherwise.
We came home from our appointment today to find this left outside our front door by Noel’s co-workers and we both feel it sums up what we are feeling.
To All Parents by Edgar A. Guest
“I’ll lend you for a little time a child of mine..” the universe said,
“For you to love the while he lives and mourn for when he’s dead”
It may be six or seven years, or twenty-two or three,
But will you, till I call him back, take care of him for me?”
He’ll bring his charms to gladden you and shall his stay be brief.
You’ll have his lovely memories as solace for your grief.”
“I cannot promise he will stay, since all from earth return
But there are lessons taught there, I want my child to learn
I’ve looked the wide world over in my search for teachers true
And from the throngs that crowd life’s lanes, I have selected you.
Now will you give him all your love, nor think the labor vain,
Not hate me when I come to call to take him home again?”
I fancied that I heard them say, “Thy will be done”
For all the joy a child shall bring, the risk of grief we’ll run.
We’ll shelter him with tenderness, we’ll love him while we may
And for the happiness we’ve known forever grateful stay;
But shall the angels call for him much sooner than we’ve planned.
We’ll brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand.”
Our love to you now and forever Baby Elija,
Mom and Dad
39 Comments
October 27, 2006 at 2:26 pm
i’m sorry to hear about the loss of your baby boy. may his brothers be healthy and strong.
October 27, 2006 at 2:38 pm
Oh Kristi…I’m crying with you and Noel for a precious little baby I didn’t even know. May you and your family find comfort and healing in each other…my thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
October 27, 2006 at 2:49 pm
Kristi: Thank you so much for sharing his name with all of us. I can’t even imagine the extent of your pain, nor could I pretend my words will ease your suffering even in the slightest. You have done a beautiful thing, by giving your son a name, and establishing his place in your family and now in God’s. May you find peace, however small, and take care of yourself for the sake of your two remaining children.
October 27, 2006 at 2:58 pm
My deepest sympathies Kristi. And Elija is a beautiful name.
October 27, 2006 at 2:59 pm
Noel and Kristi-Thank you for realizing the impact the boys have had on all of us that read your blogs. I am grieving as if Elija was one of my family. I will continue to pray for all of you, daily. I wish all of you, health, peace and comfort. Bless you.
October 27, 2006 at 3:03 pm
Great – Now I am crying again…but this time I feel and hear hope in your voice. When we lost a baby in our family my father said he wanted to scream at people “Don’t you realize that a baby died?” I always said I was comforted knowing that other people did not have to feel the pain that we expereinced. I keep that memory in my pocket and call on it when I need strength to move though a situation or inspiration to create. It is there for a reason, focus and it will become a part of you.
October 27, 2006 at 3:06 pm
Oh, I’m so sorry . . .
October 27, 2006 at 3:13 pm
Yup. I’m in tears, too. Thank you for sharing his name with us. I am honored.
October 27, 2006 at 3:14 pm
Oh, Kristi, I am so sorry. I don’t have any words for you, but know I’m thinking of you.
October 27, 2006 at 3:50 pm
Crying here along with you. No words, just comforting thoughts.
October 27, 2006 at 3:57 pm
Kristi and Noel-The magic spirit of Zoolander (Eli) will live on in the hearts of his mother and father and brothers and those who were enchanted by him…thanks for sharing his all too brief stay with us…
October 27, 2006 at 4:03 pm
my deepest sympathies. my sister just lost a child this year, so I know how fitting that poem is.
((((HUGS))))
October 27, 2006 at 4:46 pm
Kristi and Noel- I am weeping with you…Praying that the peace that transcends all understanding would permeate your hearts and minds today.
October 27, 2006 at 4:47 pm
What a lovely name. Continued prayers and thoughts to you and yours. Wrap yourself in the love of your family and friends.
October 27, 2006 at 4:53 pm
Elija Domingo Garcia…a fine name, for a fine son. Truly, a musical, magical one. I am proud to speak his name, and he (as well as his parents and brothers) will be in my prayers.
October 27, 2006 at 5:02 pm
Thinking of you.
October 27, 2006 at 5:48 pm
Kristi and Noel – my husband and I were very sad to hear of your news. We have you in our prayers.
October 27, 2006 at 6:06 pm
I shared your story with my two oldest kids and they were so sad and we all will keep you in our prayers. Elijah, what a beautiful name. Thanks for letting us know what your name for him was. Again, words cannot begin to express our grief for all of you, but just know that a family in Wisconsin is praying for the healthy delivery of Baby A and Baby C.
October 27, 2006 at 6:19 pm
I am so very sorry for your loss.
October 27, 2006 at 6:19 pm
Kristi – I’m so sorry. I’ll keep you all in my prayers.
October 27, 2006 at 7:44 pm
Kristi and Noel, I know that no words from a virtual stranger on a blog are adequate in your time of pain. I wish you and the other babies the absolute best. I’m so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby. I agree with Dana that by giving him a name and sharing it, you have forever cemented his place in your family–as it should be. You have the wishes and prayers of hundreds of knitter/bloggers with you.
October 27, 2006 at 10:50 pm
God bless and comfort you in your sorrow at the loss of Eli. You will carry Eli in your hearts forever. As you love and nurture his brothers, you will lovingly care for Eli. May the Lord touch you with his calming hand and soothe your grief.
October 28, 2006 at 11:22 am
Kristi and Noel;
Thank you for sharing these private moments with all of us out here in cyber space. As you know, there are many whose kind thoughts are with you. I am just so sorry. God Bless Elija and warm and healthy wishes for you both in the days to come.
October 28, 2006 at 1:53 pm
I am so very sorry for your loss.
October 28, 2006 at 4:13 pm
I cannot say how sorry I feel for you right now. God Bless you, Baby Eli.
October 28, 2006 at 5:45 pm
I followed a link to your site from LynnH…
We, too, went through a similar circumstance last year — a singleton with an early-detected chromosomal abnormality. We decided to see it through, and our precious Bessie was with us for only three hours. Just as no one will ever truly understand what we went through, no one can really be in your shoes right now.
But I can say this with certainty:
Your strength is your children’s strength, and your grief is everyone’s grief.
May his memory be eternal.
October 28, 2006 at 7:22 pm
How terribly, terribly sad for you all. I daren’t even contemplate what you must be feeling. Courage and love for your next few weeks.
October 28, 2006 at 7:58 pm
How sad for you both. My heart goes out to you and I will be thinking of you both and hope that you find the courage and love that you need for this time of grieving. I hope that you both have a lot of love and support.
October 28, 2006 at 11:03 pm
Beautiful name, beautiful boy. Keeping you both in my thoughts…..
October 28, 2006 at 11:11 pm
That’s such a great name. I’m so sorry for you loss.
October 29, 2006 at 12:13 am
I’ve been thinking about you guys all day today. You chose a beautiful name for him, thanks for sharing it with all of us. He’s always going to have a special place in my heart.
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Hugs to you both.
October 29, 2006 at 12:01 pm
I am so so sorry. Thank you for sharing his name and the poem with us. *hug*
October 29, 2006 at 10:40 pm
my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
October 30, 2006 at 12:46 pm
I’m so glad to know his name. My brother lost a child in the womb at 7 months, I never knew her name, and it’s so much harder. Thank you for sharing it with us.
Please take care.
October 30, 2006 at 5:02 pm
Prayers are being said for all of you. Thank you for sharing the poem with us.
October 30, 2006 at 5:25 pm
My heart is with you and your family, as well as all the power I can send through the universe to you.
October 30, 2006 at 6:49 pm
I can’t read the poem at the moment I am at work, and it is making me cry to read your last two entries. I will read it tonight when I get home. My thoughts and wishes are with you both and those boys. Don’t worry about blogging, yes we will miss you and the updates, but I am sure we can hang in there until they are born and safely home with you.
You and those boys are the most important thing right now, not us friends in the blogging world. Take care.
October 31, 2006 at 12:37 am
Oh, darling, my heart is breaking for both of you!
November 5, 2006 at 7:14 pm
I’m so sorry for your loss. We have our own Eli in our family and when I see him next I will whisper to him about your son and hug him extra hard. Peace to all of you.